What do they mean to me? A lot. Together with sleep they help me keeping my sanity.
If you haven't guessed it already, I'm quite an introvert. I love meeting new people, and be around people: whenever my energy store is full and I have a lot to give. Because being around people means double deplete for me. For every minute spent in company of others I need at least four minutes alone to recover. This is a simple thing, but a possible source of misunderstanding and quarrel. Especially when you are a parent, and you have a kid who is hyperactive, and another one, who's fairly social and extroverted. I'm struggling a lot to forgive myself of not being super patient and 100% attentive all the time.
But over the past few years I've learnt a lot, and constantly trying to develop myself. One thing that I've known for a long time is that I love exercise. It wasn't a conscious thing until I started doing kung-fu. There I quickly realised that challenging my body and my mind at the same time makes me hyper-focused, which means my mind is free from everything else for that period of time. And that makes me happy. Very happy. Because my mind is full of things by default. Full of crazy ideas, stories, memories, todos, and stuff. Crazy amount of stuff. It's quite difficult to be focused when you have a mind like that. I learnt to control it more or less over time, but I still need some help every now and then.
Exercise and healthy food are two things that always amaze me. Every time I start exercising and watch what I put in my mouth, I can see the positive effects almost immediately. Then I wonder why I don't do it continuously. Three days ago I bought myself a fitbit tracker. I'm way too excited about it at the moment to give a useful review, but I dare to say this is something that definitely will help me stick to a healthier lifestyle. I will probably be less enthusiastic in a few weeks, but I feel like it gives me a nice little push that I would normally take as offence if it came from a person. So stay tuned, I'll talk about it again in a few weeks.
The other thing that helps a lot when it comes to a healthy lifestyle, is the presence of a supportive partner. It can be anyone, who keeps you motivated and accountable, but if it's your spouse, that puts the whole thing on a new level. With Peter we shifted many times towards our better selves, but never really together. And it's difficult to stay away from that cake (or any other things you want to stay away from) if your loved one is eating it in front of you on a regular basis. This moment we are on the same track, and it feels amazing. Doubles my energy and makes the whole thing more effortless. Try it if you haven't done it already.
So with all these things I feel like I'm back on track with my personal projects, though the sleeping part is still a little bit fragile. Night is the only time of the day when I can make progress and usually I spend more time than planned. But hopefully this will improve once my kids are a little bit older.
Tell me, what do you do for a healthier life? How do you fit your favourite things in your days? What do you say no to?